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Dear girl,

You gotta let him go. Everybody makes it sound so easy and simple, but you have to let him go. You're the only one holding on. You know that right? You're the only one who still cares about this relationship that doesn't even exist anymore. You're the only one who still thinks about how things used to be and how happy you were with him. You're the only one who still feels like you guys only belong to each other and that's it. But you have to understand that this relationship was done a long time ago, that things will never go back to the way they used to be, and that you two are no longer together. Maybe you haven't accepted that and you've been having a hard time accepting that because you refuse to believe it's too late for you two, but it is. What has holding on to him do for you? It's caused you to feel lonely because you two don't even talk like that anymore. It's caused you to feel miserable because you're over here missing him while he's already replaced you. It's caused you to feel insecure about yourself because you think you're not good enough for him and thus, not good enough for anybody. But you have remember what you are worth and you have to stop settling for less than what you deserve. It's time to let him go because only by letting him go, you can start finding yourself and learn to love yourself again. It's your turn to be happy. Go and be happy.

To the boy who messed me up,

There are many things I could say to you. Many of those words may not be very nice and most of them probably wouldn't make a difference to you in any way. There are so many things I could say to you. But I'll say this:

I forgive you.

I forgive you for keeping me up so many late nights wondering where you were, what you were doing, who you were with because you wouldn't bother to tell me.

I forgive you for calling me names like crazy, psycho, annoying, all because I wanted you to love me, and only me.

I forgive you.

I forgive you for the tear stained cheeks from the countless fights about the same things over and over again because it seemed that no matter how much it hurt me, you didn't care.

I forgive you “it won't happen again”s when it always did and the “give me another chance”s when you truly didn't deserve them.

I forgive you for humiliating me in front of friends, family, and everyone who knew the truth about you and your inability to have respect and love for one person only.

I forgive you.

There is no hope in holding onto the anger and sadness of something that was not real. Holding a grudge against you only harms me. In order to love who I am, I cannot hate the experiences that shaped me.

Because of you, I am bent and broken. I may never be the same again. But maybe, just maybe... that's a good thing.

Although I will never get back the many things you have taken from me, there is one thing I have and it is something I could never have while being with you. Self Worth.

So I forgive you.

See, it is because of you that I know what I want, what I need, and what I deserve.

It's because of you that I now realize what it is truly like to be treated like a princess and to be with someone who gives me the world without making me feel worthless.

I am a lot of things because of you, but I am not forgiving you because what you did was okay. I forgive you solely because what you did to me made me smarter, stronger, and more confident.

But I am not giving you the credit. I am simply saying I forgive you because you dragged me down so far, I was forced to push myself back up. Me, myself, and I.

So, I forgive you.

I forgive you for making me believe that the never ending feeling of fear, sadness, and hopelessness was love.

Don't worry, I forgive you.

Sincerely,

The girl who is so much happier now.

Words by: Kaitlyn Baker

Don't settle, don't lower your standards. Wait for the guy who truly loves you.

Well, it's engagement season. Recently I had a friend tell me in conversation, "What if I never find the perfect guy? I probably just need to lower my standards to get that 'ring by spring' like everyone else."

I'll be honest, I once thought the same thing... Will I ever find a guy with my, what seem to be, impossibly high, standards? I realized, though, yeah I should probably let go of the physical standards I have but there should be some things, us as girls should never settle on. We should wait it out, because even if it takes longer than expected, God has that perfect guy in store for you.

1. Wait for the guy who makes you laugh.

The guy that makes you smile when you're just done with the day, the guy who knows exactly what lame jokes to tell you that make you smirk, and the guy who will always try to make you smile or laugh when you're going through the hardest of times.

2. Wait for the guy that motivates you.

The guy who will push you to reach your dreams and goals. The guy who will encourage you when you feel like giving up and the guy who will motivate you to pursue God and encourage you to grow in your faith.

3. Wait for the guy that prays for you.

The guy who will set aside some sort of time per day to have you in his prayers. To pray for your goals, your life, and your relationship.

4. Wait for the guy that respects you.

Not just the guy that opens doors for you and pays for dinner, but the guy who respects your body, respects your morals and respects your choices.

5. Wait for the guy your family loves.

Because let's be honest, they really do know best.

So maybe I won't get that "ring by spring," but I know, that by not settling, I will get the "perfect" guy, and it'll be worth the wait.

Words by: Ileana Gates, The Odyssey

Dear girl,

I know you still love him and there's always going to be a part of you that will, but just because you love him doesn't mean you should be with him. Just because you care about him doesn't mean he's good for you. Just because it feels right with him doesn't mean he'll make you happy. You know you're supposed to move on, but it's not that simple at the same time and that's understandable because how do you easily walk away from someone you've had your heart set on for so long, especially if he's the one who broke it and it feels like he's the only one who could fix it? Listen, I get it. It's hard to be just friends with someone who's seen your heart and it's even harder to go back to being strangers with someone who's seen your soul, but you know what's the hardest thing to do? Finding happiness again after being lost in someone else for so long and if you were to go back to where you lost your happiness, you'll never find it. The easy thing to do is to go back to what feels familiar and comfortable, but sometimes what feels familiar and comfortable will only hurt you if you stay. So please, be more selfish and put yourself first for once because that's the only you'll be able to love yourself.

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